There is a high demand for love, mostly among orphans and teens that grew up in dysfunctional homes. Some teens have never experienced what it means to be loved and would do anything just to feel loved, even if it means having sex with someone who does not care about them. From experience, it is understandable how difficult it must have been growing up in a family where one did not feel loved because of family challenges. Under this circumstance, love-deprived teens tend to confuse sex for love because they do not know the true definition of love.
Love and sex are two of the most used and abused words. Most teens think that love and sex means the same thing. Love wants the best for us and for other people. Therefore, any act that does compel one to act against his or her best interest is not love. Boys often tell girls to have sex with them if they really love them but they must understand that girls are searching for boys who can love them without demanding sex in exchange. Television and the entertainment media pressurize teens into believing that love and sex are synonymous but that is misleading. Teens see movies where two people who just met get involved in sex and think that love is incomplete without sex. The outcome of this ideology reflects in the number of people experiencing relationship heartbreak.
Sex is not a test of love. Commitment, trust, integrity, honesty, respect is a test of true love. Having sex with a partner who does not possess these qualities is a waste of time, energy, and resources. If someone wants you to prove your love through having sex with him or her, tell them to prove their love for you by respecting your decision to wait for sex until marriage. The truth remains that, many relationships that involves sex ends in heartbreak, rather than marriage. Do not be deceived into having sex with someone just to “prove to them that you love them” because they will definitely move on to someone else they get tired of having sex with you. Understand that no one who threatens to leave you if you do not have sex with them values you; he or she is only using you for sexual gratification.
Sex is not love; it is only one among many expressions of love between married couples. Sex without a lifetime commitment is an unworthy compromise that could haunt one for a lifetime. When two married people have sex, they grow in love because they have committed their lives to each other, and for them it is not just all about sex but love towards each other. The result of sex between two single adults is fear of commitment because men do not like to commit except they find a girl who is worth the risk. A man will hardly ever commit martially to a girl who already lives with him.
True love comes from God. A man who does not love God, cannot love you and a man’s love for you is not fulfilling except you let God‘s love into your heart. Become born again and commit you life to Jesus Christ and then, you will experience an over flowing love. What happens if you already lost your virginity? Start all over again. Make the decision not to engage in sex again until you are married. Accepting that you have made a wrong choice for a long time is the greatest step to a more productive life. God no longer looks at the wrong you have done the moment you decide to make a wise choice. Say no to premarital sex and know that whoever loves you will respect your decision to wait for sex until marriage.
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